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The following are letters and emails received from parents who have used this method of parenting. I will be adding more as soon as I have time to collect and post them.

From Southmetromom: 

Elizabeth (and friends) - just to let you know what a breakthrough I have had thanks to your web site. I have a 5 year old son and 2 1/2 year old daughter. I have been trying to get a handle on discipline, but came to realize a couple of months ago that my son was really out of control.

Friends did not know this, mostly. My son is smart and articulate and kind most of the time. But I knew - he would have incredible "melt-downs" at a mall, for example -- and he is so big I couldn't carry him out or even pick him up. Or he would run away when I told him it was time to come indoors.

Well, I was motivated anew to seek an answer when my daughter started stuttering a month ago. My intuition told me it was the stress between me and my son that was causing it.

I had a real "light bulb moment" when I read "You only have to teach your children one thing - to obey you." After just ONE DAY of consistency and no anger or yelling on my part, and yes, a few swats, my son was doing SO much better - just so much happier. And to my husband's and my utter amazement, my daughter stopped stuttering the first day. It was nothing short of a miracle.

Thank you, thank you, for making this so clear. It is the first time I have had parenting explained in a compassionate, gentle way, yet one that put me in charge where I needed to be. I have let my son run the show for 5 years, I am sad to confess. Now I am working with him to retrain his bad attitude when he doesn't get his way. 

My own dh always had a handle on parenting and often tried to give me insight and help, but I just didn't "get it." The first day I implemented your simple techniques, my dh came home from work; we were eating dinner and he said, "Who are you people? Am I in the right house?" It was that dramatic of a change. Again, thank you.

From LovingHim:

I don't know that my dh and I really had a parenting philosophy to start out with. I know I did have subscriptions to both Parents and Child magazines and I would follow whatever strategies they suggested .

A breakthrough occurred to me when my oldest son was 3 and my daughter was 18 months. My son was out of control. I would be in tears at the the end of each day. Some days I would just put my dc in their car seats and drive because I knew they were contained. One day at the grocery store I picked up "The Strong Willed Child". It was very helpful to me and it started to make a difference in my son, but I still would feel awful for spanking and honestly I would often revert back to time out or other methods.....

When I was pregnant with my 4th (I now had 3 under 4 and was expecting again!) I picked up a copy of "Shepherding Your Child's Heart" by Tedd Tripp. I have no idea what made me buy that book but I can tell you it must have been the Lord. It changed my life and our family!!

Later at a homeschool convention I found the Pearl's books and was once again blessed and challenged on how to be a godly mother.

I can't even remember how I came across this site but I am so happy I did!!! The main page is so full of practical info that is simple to apply and best of all it works!!!! I believe this site "Fills in the gaps" of where the other books leave off. I am so encouraged to be able to glean information from such wise Christian ladies. It never seems to fail that an issue pops up with one of my dc and I come here and it is already being addressed by someone else going through the same thing.

Before I started applying the Biblical principles that are laid out on this site (and in the books I mentioned) I was a phony. Everyone thought my dc were well behaved because I would never let them be around enough to really see how they really behaved. Today, I walk in confidence that I can take my dc anywhere and they will be sweet, obedient and HAPPY children. They are truly a blessing straight from heaven. 

We are constantly told how wonderful our children are. I have been approached by many mothers asking me *how* to raise godly children. I am not saying this to brag, I know that it is by the grace of God and His Grace alone. I am not able to go out and witness and evangelize like some people may. My mission filed is my home and this houseful of children God has given to me. It is my prayer that when people see my family out in the world they will see us "shining as lights in a wicked and perverse generation" and we will be able to point them to the source of our light JESUS.


From Scaddigs:

While my parenting had always been firm & loving, it lacked the common sense skills & the Godly attitude I have acquired since finding "A Trip to the Woodshed" & this forum last year. (Praise the Lord!) I have been watching my granddaughters on a daily basis since their birth; laying on my shoulders a responsibility/influence that is usually reserved for a child's parents. They are by my side throughout the day (10 hrs.) so that I can immediately correct/train, teach, praise, etc. They are 5 & 3 1/2 year old & think nothing of obeying MawMaw the FIRST time; it has become second nature for them. 

For a few months, I had been having daily episodes of a burning in my chest that would be somewhat uncomfortable & last approx. 30 seconds. One day of last October, the familiar burning began but, did not go away as always before. Instead, it intensified, becoming very uncomfortable & my breathing was a little difficult. In all, it had been happening for about 10 minutes when I dialed 911.
Physically, I wasn't doing well enough to put my dogs into an enclosed room & knowing that the larger one would NEVER allow anyone in, I knew I would have to go outside in order to receive emergency care. Had any of my other grandchildren been here, I would NOT have stepped a foot outside my front door knowing that I would be unable to PHYSICALLY control them & therefore put them at risk. Had I not DILIGENTLY trained the girls to obey me, I would NOT have risked them either but, because I have/do , I told them to get their blocks & come w/ me. They played beside me on the porch (ok, technically not a porch-concrete slab in front of door lol) as I waited for the ambulance. This 'porch' is approx. 2 1/2 car lengths from the street.

By the time paramedics arrived (from 5 streets away), I was on my hands & knees because of the discomfort & stressful breathing. Come to find out, I had a 90% blockage in an artery & a blood clot had settled there, blocking blood flow to a third of my heart. What literally saved me at the time, was the nitroglycerin the paramedics had IMMEDIATELY given me, because it dilated the vessels & it returned the blood flow.

Ladies, if I had not taken seriously, the Godly wisdom that has been freely shared here, DILIGENTLY (there's that word again) invested in training these little girls, (3 & 4 at that time) I would have been unable to trust in their obedience (they would have been at risk because of the street) & I would NOT have gone outside where the paramedics could attend to me immediately but would have remained in the house; assuring a very good chance that they would have been unable to get to me in time...because of the dogs.

Okay, I'm not very good at expressing myself so, this will probably be my only post for another year. Lol! Anyway, I want you all to know that my life has been greatly influenced by you all; your love, wisdom, the openness in which you humbly & willingly share even your shortcomings is both uplifting & inspirational to me. I pray that God blesses you.

From HappyMama:

I found this site when my 14 month old daughter was about 2 months old. I have been blessed to learn about these techniques from the get-go and while I hear countless stories of other moms having little to no control over their babies' behavior I feel as though we have total control. My daughter understands the word no and knows that we are the authority. She knows to stay in the same room with me, so no need to put up gates everywhere to contain her....which is AWESOME now considering she just started walking 4 days ago! 

What I think is really funny is a lot of people tell us how "lucky" we are that our daughter is so good. It's like she is magically this baby who doesn't touch the things she shouldn't and doesn't stray away, doesn't open kitchen cabinets, etc. I do think that she naturally has a heart that desires to please us, but I can't help but think that our persistent training had something to do with it!

Yesterday my hubby and I were walking with our daughter and there was this grandfather out in his yard and he told us that he was outside to take a break from his grandkids b/c they were driving him nuts and into everything. He said to us "Just wait until she's walking because she'll be into everything too"....it was nice to be able to say that she is walking and we're doing just fine! 

A big thank you to Elizabeth and the others that contribute to this site. You have really made things so much easier for us new moms!! 


From KatieAZ:

I am thrilled to have found the Woodshed. When I came here I had well behaved kids. We were the ones who got all the compliments. But mostly in our house children were to be seen and not heard. Our favorite phrase was "Go play." The part we *did not* get was the building of relationship with our kids.

This was essential being that we moved into a very large house and now when we told the kids to "go play" we could not see them nor hear them. If things had continued to go on the way they were we would have lost our childrens' hearts for sure. Our parenting consisted of spanking for offenses we never saw based on what another child said and after sorting through all the stories. Then we would send them on their way again. If we still had problems we would send them to their rooms or to the corner. It was not *really* working to change their heart. This became glaringly evident when I began tomato staking.

Wow! What an eye opener! I had no idea how bad my kids attitudes were or how they were treating each other. I was exactly what every non-spanker thinks I am. My kids obeyed out of fear, if they were not going to be caught they did what they pleased. I was shocked!! Not *my* good kids!!

To be honest I was not excited about having the kids with me ALL THE TIME. As I said, "go play" was our favorite phrase. What a paradigm shift for me. My husband was *not* on board and I was on my own. Several times when he told them to go play I went with them and said I had things to do upstairs. I was exhausted for 2 weeks (but saw results in 24 hours). I did explain to him what I was doing and he was a believer when he saw the difference. When we had less spankings and more true repentance he was sold on the idea.

All in all my life is great. I enjoy, *enjoy*, ENJOY......did I say enjoy? my kids (my husband does too!). I honestly love having them around. When people question my "strict, controlling" parenting I say "Who is the one who is crying and frustrated everyday by 3pm? Who is the one that can't wait until 8pm bedtime? Who is the one who does not want anymore children?" It is not me.

Thank you E!

From JubileeHouse (Our house is full of Jubilee and Noise with 6 girls.) :

It is really hard to find a rent house with 6 kids and a dog. We were looking for a house closer to our new church so that we could be more available.

We found a house but the lady wanted to take applications for a couple of weeks and "decide what would be best for the house". At that point, my husband and I said "It's in God's hands".

Well the woman called me the very next morning. We got the house!! But here is the funny part:  She told us that another couple wanted it and offered more for it, but their two children misbehaved the entire time they were there looking at the house, and the parents never said anything to the kids.  (Misbehaving as in throwing rocks at each other on the porch near the front windows, climbing on top of the cabinets...)

This woman told them that she could not rent out her house to them because she was afraid the kids would tear up the house. So instead, she rented it to us and our 6 kids, knowing after just a few minutes that our kids would not behave that way.

It is amazing how much difference your children's behavior makes in what people think you.

From Tara in MD:

My two oldest boys have been pretty neglected since the birth of my third child almost 5 weeks ago due to my rough recovery and the many doctor appointments for my newborn. BUT.... they have handled it so well. We have had little "problems" as one would with a 4 year old and 2 1/2 year old, but for the most part they have been so awesome. They have been so helpful it brings tears to my eyes. 

Seriously, what could be cuter than:

~a 4 year old helping his 2 year old brother pull down his pants every few hours so he can go potty,

~a 2 year old asking "Are you doing okay, momma?",

~both coming over to ask me to tell them what they can do to clean up (unprompted!)- and then they spent 30 minutes JOYFULLY putting away laundry, dishes, toys, etc. all on their own,

~playing with the same small box of duplo legos all week and not complaining one bit even though all the neighbor children were out riding bikes, running through sprinklers, etc. right outside our window,

~two little ones fixing their own lunch (yogurt and cookies-oh, well) and even bringing some to me while I was resting on the sofa,

~and many more sweet moments.

Thanks Elizabeth for this site. I have witnessed firsthand how well trained obedient children can be such a JOY and HELP even during difficult times. Who says that little children are a burden...mine have been such an asset this past month!